7 Essential Tips to Secure Stage Time as an Professional Speaker

7 Essential Tips to Secure Stage Time

Professional Speaking takes more than receiveing the Accredited speaker designation.         -Toastmasters Legends Dilip Abayasekara & Mohamed Shukri

November 22, 2024 An amazing coincidence happend.  I was conducting research on how I can become an accredited speaker and thought I wonder how accessible some of these speakers that are legendary are. So I reached out to a handful of amazing speakers. To my surprise I had two world class toastmaster's accredited speakers who agreed to speak with me and share their insights. The funny thing was, they  accidentally ended up on the same zoom call. This article is the result of the happened so far.

When the universe lines up, sometimes it delivers exactly what you need at the right time. That was the case when I had the privilege of speaking with two Toastmasters legends, Dilip Abayasekara and Mohamed Shukri, on the same call. What was supposed to be two separate conversations turned into a powerful, unexpected collaboration that offered invaluable insights into what it takes to excel as a professional speaker, launch your career and be an accredited speaker.

Who are these legends?

Dilip Abayasekara 38-year Toastmasters veteran & Accredited Speaker, Former President of Toastmasters International (2005-2006). Achieved second place in the 1992 Toastmasters World Championship. Author of The Path of the Genie: Your Journey to Your Heart’s Desire.

Mohamed Shukri is a Toastmasters Pioneer,being first from the Middle East to reach the World Championship finals. Author of You Are The One And Only: Unleash Your New Niche

1. From Free to Fee: Building Stage Time

Dilip and Mohamed both made it clear that stage time is the foundation of any successful speaker's career. Dilip shared his early days of teaching adult education classes where he volunteered his time. His focus wasn’t on the paycheck but on delivering value to eager learners, which gave him the stage experience he needed to grow as a professional.Actionable Tips:Volunteer for speaking gigs: Offer to speak at events or organizations aligned with your passions.
Grow your testimonial page: Ask attendees about their experiences and use their feedback to build your credibility.
From free to fee: Once you’ve built a track record of delivering value, start transitioning to paid opportunities.

"So you ask, how do I get the word out? You're constantly out there, speaking,  sharing, communicating, connecting, and offering value."-Dilip R. Abayaskara

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2. Find Your Niche and Own It

Mohamed’s eyes were opened when he realized he once again had failed to recive the accredited speaker designation. Why?! My subject was so interesting, I delivered it well, it was presented wonderfully. But he realized a little too late that ,When you  try to speak to everyone, you end up speaking to nobody. His the turning point came when he received an email from the selection comitee for accredited speakers. It had one line that highlighted a crucial truth—a truth that sparked his book, his speaking career, and a massive shift in his approach. The key discovery was that by narrowing his focus to a slice of his Expertise and doing that ONLY, then people could recognize him and know who he was.

The line was, "we are looking for someone who is serving and doing good in their industry".  Up until that point, Mohamed had been giving speeches based on his own interests,  and topics outside his expertise. But after that email, everything changed. The phrase "doing good in thier industry" clicked for him, and from that moment, he began to focus on what truly set him apart—his unique value in his field.

"Surprisingly, paradoxically, when you narrow down the niche, you get more audiences because less people speak in that. So you become one in 10 rather than one in 1,000—you become one out of 10 only, who provide this slice, if not the only one. By the way, this is the title of my new book."-Mohamed Shukri

It is fascinating that Mohamed described how he went from speaking about almost anything to speaking about only a "slice" and because he took a very narrow slice he became know as the go do guy for Safty in his industry. That is a. perfect example of how hyper narrowing his speaking focus to safety for electrical engineers has made him stand out in a competitive market. The more specific your niche, the higher your chances of being recognized because you go from Thousands who speak on the generalities to the few who speak in specifics.

Dilip reinforced this by highlighting his work with Head Start, which he deeped "exposure for a worthy cause." Headstart is a preschool organization he is personally connected to their cause from hands on expereince. He focused on his experience not on generalities. He didn’t just speak for them; he became part of their story, which made his messages even more powerful.

How do you find your voice?  Dilip gave this key to narrowing your niche:

By speaking to many audiences, gathering feedback, and refining your skills until, one day, you realize: This is who I am, and no one else can replicate me. No one else can tell my story the way I do.

When people hear your story, they’ll know it’s uniquely yours—not borrowed from a book or modeled after someone else’s life. You don’t have to imitate when the story is authentically your own. That’s what authenticity and integrity are all about—powerful in their own right.

Now, combine that authenticity with what Mohamed said about narrowing your niche, and you discover your unique value to the world. That’s when your voice resonates at its highest level.

 

Key Lesson:

Find a turning point in your life that connects with your career. Build a speech around it. Your story will resonate more deeply with your audience.

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3. Authenticity and Alignment: Speak with Heart

Both Dilip and Mohamed stressed the importance of aligning with causes and organizations that you genuinely care about. Mohamed, in particular, shared how choosing an organization that resonates with you can bring out the best in your speeches.

Mohamed Shukri shared an experience where he spoke from the heart, passionately sharing his commitment to safety with his audience. He was expecting nothing, gave an heartfelt message then unexpectedly after that event the organizer walked up to him and placed an envelope full of cash  in his hands.  As he opened the envelope and was taken a back with gratitude. The organizer said, "Thank you, Your message was that valuable. I wish I could give you more." Serving with authenticity and no expectation of compensation, Mohamed’s dedication was recognized in a way he hadn’t imagined, but It marked a pivotal moment in his speaking career—a "shift" where his impact was appreciated, and the rewards naturally followed. The lesson? When you serve with authenticity and alignment, the recognition and rewards will come.

Dilip shared his experience with Head Start. Instead of just speaking for them, he became involved with their mission. He studied their work, attended their events, and spoke from lived experience—something that always shines through when you’re speaking about something you truly care about.

Pro Tip:

Speak for free when it’s for a cause you believe in. These opportunities allow you to give back while growing your speaking career.

4. Make It Memorable: The Aladdin Framework

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Dilip shared a storytelling framework that really resonated with me—using clear, relatable examples to anchor complex ideas. He compared this approach to the simplicity of Aladdin’s three wishes. The framework makes even complicated concepts more memorable and accessible.

He also suggested tapping into local organizations, such as the Chamber of Commerce or trade unions, to find speaking opportunities. These groups can connect you to new audiences and help you grow your network.

Practical Advice:

Build your conversations around familiar frameworks.
Collaborate with local groups to enhance your speaking opportunities.
Dilip complimented me saying, “wow you learn fast!” It is all about value first and simplicity so it can be implemented. People pay for the impact & change not the speach

5. Turning Points: Moments That Define Us

The most inspiring part of the conversation was when Mohamed encouraged me to think about pivotal moments in my own life and career—those "turning points"—and use them as the foundation for my speeches. He also loved the concept I shared, "About Face," which centers around the life-changing moments that shaped who I am today.

Both Dilip and Mohamed agreed that storytelling is one of the most powerful tools a speaker has. By connecting your personal turning points to your message, you can turn individual experiences into universal lessons.

Actionable Insight:

Reflect on life events that shaped your career. Build speeches around these moments to create more authentic and impactful stories.

6. Owning Mistakes Not Dwelling on them

We all make mistakes, however it is how you respond to those mistakes that will determine whether or not people want to ever work with you again. When technical difficulties happen take responsibilility and don't play the blame game. It may not have been your fault but it is your responsibiliy to act professional. If you have a scheduling issue  own it and make it right. For example,  My first interaction with Dilip had an embarrassing start— I got distracted with who knows what and missed the first 15 minutes of our first call I scheduled with him. I was so embarassed I almost didn't call him back. I was embarassed, angry at myself, and felt like I needed to be extra accomodatind to make it on a call with him.  Not a good first impression but when contacted Dilip again to reschedule—I owned my mistake and was so thankful that he still wanted to meet.

This moment became a small but important lesson for me: owning our mistakes builds trust and respect. Instead of focusing on my initial misstep, Dilip focused on my potential and encouraged me to keep pursuing my goals.

His parting words at the end of this amazing converstation stayed with me: “I admire your passion and determination to excel. Stay the course!”

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7. Divine Timing: The Power of Connection

One of the most memorable parts of the conversation was the serendipity of the situation. Dilip and Mohamed already knew each other, and through our discussion, Dilip was able to help Mohamed with a logistical challenge regarding his travel to the U.S. for a national conference learning how to get a requested letter from the USA. Dilip had previously helped others from Sri Lanka navigate the same issue, and it was through this conversation that Mohamed received the crucial information he needed to attend the event.

This moment of divine timing reinforced the power of mentorship and the connections that can be made when people come together for a common purpose.

 

 

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